All of us are prone to unrealistic expectations. We may seek a perfect marriage, children who behave at all times, or responsive friends who will drop everything to come to our aid—whatever it is, it is an ideal script we have drafted for our lives. At times we are presumptuous enough to start demanding our way—asking the Church to fulfill all our needs, or worse yet, for God to give us what we want, regardless of His will or plan for our lives.

What is the result of living a life where we expect everyone else to play to our standards of perfection? The irony is that our efforts to force a perfect situation often riddle our lives with problems and conflicts.

These unmet dreams lead to frustration and to discontentment, and we find depression instead of perfection. It seems that the holidays reinforce these unrealistic expectations more than other times.

Many of these expectations stem from comparing ourselves with others. When we tell ourselves, “If only I had what that person has,” we set ourselves up for great disappointment. Whether it is envying someone else’s money, lifestyle, spouse, or career, it only leads to a letdown. But God will never disappoint us. Even in the best of relationships, people will fail us. But God never will. When our expectations are based on the Word of God, we will never be disillusioned.

When we understand that God keeps His promises, we will not worry over being let down. When we recognize God as being both the covenant maker and covenant keeper, we can trust that no matter what twists and turns our lives take, God will not abandon us.

Prayer: Father, forgive me for comparing myself with others. I pray that my expectations would be based on Your Word. Thank You for being faithful to Your promises. I pray in the name of Jesus. Amen.

“Your kingdom is an everlasting kingdom, and your dominion endures through all generations. The LORD is trustworthy in all he promises and faithful in all he does” (Psalm 145:13).

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About The Author

Dr. Michael Youssef, Ph.D.

Even before he was born, it is clear that God had a vision for Michael Youssef. His mother was in poor health when she became pregnant with Michael, and because his life was in danger at the time of birth, the doctor recommended terminating the pregnancy. An abortion was scheduled. But God intervened and sent the family pastor to reassure them that God was involved in this pregnancy. He told them not to be afraid and that the child would be "born to serve the Lord." Michael's parents accepted the pastor's message as a message from God and obeyed. His mother gave birth, and lived to see him give his life to the Lord at the age of sixteen.


Believing that God had called him out of Egypt, Michael sought an exit visa in a time in which no university student was allowed to have a passport or leave the country. God intervened again, and miraculously he managed to acquire a visa. He immigrated to Australia, where he studied at Moore Theological College in Sydney, was ordained as a pastor, and met Elizabeth who became his wife.


The Youssefs came to America in 1977, and in 1978 Michael received a master's degree in theology at Fuller Theological Seminary in California. Then he earned a doctorate in social anthropology at Emory University in Atlanta, Georgia. Michael served nearly ten years in the Haggai Institute, traveling around the world more than 32 times, teaching courses in evangelism and leadership. He rose to the position of Managing Director at the age of 31 years. The family settled in Atlanta, and in 1984, Michael became a citizen of the United States, making his dream of many years come true.


He founded The Church of The Apostles in 1987 with fewer than 40 adults with the mission of "Equipping the Saints and Searching for the Lost". The church has since grown to be a congregation of over 3,000 people today. This church has driven the international ministry of Leading the Way. While it is heard by millions at home and abroad, behind every message preached through radio waves, is the heart of a pastor, willing to nurture and care for these people. Clearly God has uniquely equipped Dr. Youssef to speak to a global audience. The path he has taken has given him an understanding and firm grasp of the Scriptures that transcend cultures. He preaches, teaches and calls with a sincere, based on the authority of the inerrant, inspired Word of God. With his personal knowledge of the Holy Land, its history and culture, Dr. Michael Youssef transmits life to listeners all over the world.



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